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February 23, 2012, 2:43 am

This girl is being held emotionally hostage by her mother. There are some indicators that seem to point toward some narcissistic behaviour on the part of her mother. It seems she is being used as a "pawn" somehow. I wouldn't blame her for the situation she finds herself in. It...

February 23, 2012, 2:28 am

I agree in this case that if the boy doesn't express any interest at this time; it would be wrong to initiate any further contact. Where is the father in this situation? I can understand the response from the boy considering the father doesn't seem to be the one initiating contact. The...

February 23, 2012, 2:05 am

I just can't relate with so many of these "wrong things to say" I agree in general that it is very strange to say to someone "thanks for not aborting him/her" - I can't imagine anyone thinking that wasn't weird. My bmum had it harder than most I imagine - I was taken from...

February 22, 2012, 7:41 pm

I think that it is all about emoms choice. Like others said adoptive parents at the delivery can impact on her decisiion and we dont want this person in the most difficult time of her life to decide under pressure and emotions afraid of hurting the prospective parents. The beauty of adoption is...

February 22, 2012, 6:43 pm

I really don't think there is a "right" answer. I think that your e-mom is out there and she will find you! the reason I don't think there is a right answer is because I really think that all e-moms look for different things, based on what is important to them. I've talked to moms and...

February 22, 2012, 12:10 pm

My husband has been blessed with the opportunity to reunite with his 30 year old daughter who was adopted by her mother's husband at 8 years old. Long story made short, E's mother developed breast cancer when E was 8 years old. Through much deception on my husband's ex-wife's part she was able to...

February 21, 2012, 8:49 pm

You probably triggered some really deep emotional thoughts in her. Give her some time. There are some things that are just never comfortable for people to talk about. My first mom refuses contact with me at all because it is too painful. Unless we experience it, and I have, there is no way as...

February 21, 2012, 8:49 pm

I am sorry. Hopefully she will respond soon. if you had an agreement with her this is not far. Try to calm your heart and her silence does not mean that your baby is not on good hands. Adoptive parents also go to some emotional hard times and she may be wondering how to write for you, what to say,...

February 21, 2012, 7:44 pm

So many questions can be answered and relationships not damaged if you say and truly mean " I have some hard questions I would like to ask you, and I will still care about you and want to be with you no matter what the answers are". That is how I would start. Good luck.

February 21, 2012, 7:40 pm

I am going to answer your question as openly as I can. I definately hoped my daughter would contact me as an adult. I hoped she would tell me her life as an adopted child was great and hoped to give her information and form some type of family relationship. I never thought I would be in the mother...

February 21, 2012, 3:59 pm

I don't think it's good thing too ignore person that care you. Girls Bedding

February 20, 2012, 7:56 pm

I am searching for birth family Patty Staples Amanda and tyler staples birth half siblings born Calgary sept 11 1979 female

February 20, 2012, 3:53 pm

So sorry you have had this happen to you. I tried for the past 13 years to have a relationship with no success. Sometimes you just have to accept the reality no matter how much it hurts.

February 20, 2012, 12:51 am

Yes I have to agree with CaddoRose,Bio parents always seem to blame the county.The ones that don't blame CPS, usually try hard,work there plan and get there kids back.